So I realized that I have not really said how Jake and I have come to be. I just love our story and had to share it....
In the year 2008 I started my freshman year of college at BYU-Idaho. I was loving college life. I was having so much fun getting to know the girls in my complex. One day when I was at church I met a boy who I thought was super cute. The more that I got to know this boy the more I like him. The problem was I didn’t know if he liked me. We would see each other around often and talk. He would even invite me and a couple of my friends to go with him to different school activities. But since I am completely oblivious, I thought he was just being nice and nothing more.
Now enter in my amazing next-door neighbors.
As I was trying to figure out what was going on in this certain boys head, I headed over to my neighbors to ask the girls their advice. To my delight I met one of my friends boyfriend. His name was Jake.
(That’s right my husband was dating my neighbor when I met him)
I asked Jake what her thought about my boy situation. He told me the truth and said the guy probably liked me a lot and it was pretty obvious. He then proceeded to help me figure out how to get this boy to finally ask me out. With Jakes help we came up with a plan.
The boy from church and I ended up planning on meeting at a swing dance. Not as a date mind you, but as I’ll see you there type of thing. Anyways, Jake took his girlfriend to the same swing dance. There Jake danced with me to help me show off my mad dancing skills… and to get that certain boys attention. I guess it worked because that boy and I ended up dating. Shortly after we started to date Jake and my neighbor broke up. Luckily we stayed friends and over time Jake became one of my best friends. I ended up dating the boy from my church for almost a year. During that time I went to Jake all the time for advice. All the way from “what should I get him for Christmas” to “Yikes! He wants to marry me! What should I do?” Jake was always there listening to me, cheering me up, and helping me to learn how to make my own decisions. He never did tell me exactly what to do. He would just help me learn what I needed to do to make up my own mind.
Now don’t judge me, but every now and then as I was talking to Jake I would wonder why I couldn’t end up with a guy just like him. There was one time I even thought that I should be with Jake instead of the guy I was actually with. Each time this happened I would push the thought out of my mind saying something to the effect of “I’m sure he s to short for me.” Even though he is actually a couple of inches taller.
While I was dating my guy from church, there were a few times that I thought I was actually going to marry him. He was a great guy and I knew that he would treat me right and my life would be good. But I could never full commit. It is such a huge decision. I was afraid of making a wrong choice.
It wasn’t until I had a certain experience that I made up my mind and knew what I had to do.
Hill Cumorah 2009
In the summer of 2009 I was in the Hill Cumorah Pageant
. There I was able to share with so many people what I believed. It was such a great experience and I loved every minuet of it. While I was there I didn’t have much contact with anyone out side the immediate area of Palmyra, New York. That means no talking with the boy I was dating. One day I started to think about him and the possibility of marrying him. As I was thinking about this I started feeling super unhappy. It wasn’t until I pushed any thought about him out of my mind that I was happy again. I knew that I finally had my answer that I had been praying about for a long time.
I still thought that the boy I was dating was a great guy and that he would make someone very happy. But, that girl wasn’t me. Right before school started, we broke up.
Side not: Luckily I can say we both have respect for each other. And we are both happily married now J
Me, Jake, and Carolyn
The weeks that followed I really did lean on Jake and another one of my best friends, Carolyn. It was harder then I thought saying goodbye to a guy that I had dated for about a year. On top of that, I was feeling guilty for having a slight crush on Jake. After all, I just broke up with a guy. I was not about to go jumping into another relationship.
Carolyn was the amazing friend that helped push us together. A couple of months after school and started again, Jake asked me out. By this time I had a huge crush on him. My family was so excited. Turns out that they had been routing for him ever since they met him. After only a week of dating I knew that I was a goner. I was head over heels in love with this boy. It was a different kind of love that I had ever experienced before. I could not imagine not having him in my life.
Shortly after we started to date I learned that he had been in love with me from almost the moment he met me. He had not told anyone his feelings but had stayed by my side, being there for me the best he could.
He proposed on January 4th 2010 and we were married on April 16th 2010 in the Idaho Falls temple.
I am so glad to have married Jake and know that I will be with him forever. I love that I can say that I married my best friend.
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So Elizabeth from the blog bella wrote this thought on her blog yesterday...
I absolutely love this quote. I do think that having an open mind and learning about other peoples ideas are important. That being said there are some things that I will never change my mind on that I love and hold dear.
2. Family- It's eternal. The people who are there for you no matter what
3. My Faith- I believe it. I know it. I live it
4. Dance- Love to teach it, dance it, and be inspired by it.
5. Books- Grows the imagination
6. Love- is unselfish and forever
7. Optimistic- It is way more fun then being Pessimistic
8. Red sauce over the White sauce on Pasta- Sorry but the marinara sauce is way better.
9. Fall colors- Favorite colors and favorite time of year. Always will be
10. laughter- It brings happiness to life
What will you never change your mind on?
Have you ever read the book Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad day? It is about this little boy who is just having a very bad day. Everything seems to go wrong for him. He starts to think that maybe he should just move to Australia and that would solve all his problems. He learns that somedays are just like that everywhere you go and its okay. Why am I telling you all this? Two reasons really...
1st-I like the book and I was a Child Development major.
2nd- Today could of easily been a Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad day for me.
So many things went wrong today. Our Christmas tree fell down. our shower got clogged, the water was turned off all day because of a broken pipe, my alarm clock didn't go off, ants invaded my home, and I am getting sick.
Although so many things went wrong, so many things went right and thats what I am choosing to focus on today.
- Emma talked, laugh, giggled, and played with me all day today
- Emma and I had a picnic in the car with Jake
- I talked with my Mom, Dad, and Mother-in-law (they are the best!)
- Started wrapping Christmas presents and they look so pretty under the tree.
- The tree was fixed. I don't think I can even tip it over now :)
- Ants died!
- Jake fixed the shower (did I mention he is awesome)
- I got to sleep in (hehehe thanks alarm clock)
- Dinner was sooo good
- Made plans to go to a basketball game tomorrow
- The water finally got turned back on tonight
- Spent the evening with my two favorite people
Really it has turned out to be a Awesome, Wonderful, Superb, Very Good day.
Here are some pictures of what we have been up to
Weekends just fly by too fast, but they sure are fun!
Here is what we have been up to the past couple of days...
- We decorated at Jake's Parents. This was so much fun. Jake was able to help put up the Christmas lights outside, and I got to help set up everything on the inside. I loved every minute of it. Getting to put up Nativities, ornaments, center pieces, stocking... My mother -in-law, Holli, and I kept moving stuff around like crazy before we would decide what goes where. Whenever Jake and his Dad would come inside I would keep showing him something that we moved :) But I must say, the house looks great! It is defiantly looking like Christmas there now. Emma was so excited to watch us put up the CHristmas tree. She even got to play with one of the bell ornaments. I think she thought it was the best thing ever!
- A Christmas Present came early this year. Holli gave Emma her very own baby's first ornament. It is so cute and perfect. It has the year and everything on it. I was so excited to come home and hang it on our tree.
- We went to Church yesterday and had such a great day. We were able to hear the testimonies of many people and I was able to work with a whole bunch of little kids. In my church my responsibility is to teach the 3 and 4 year olds church lessons. I love doing this and watching them learn about the gospel. One of my favorite things is listening to the little children pray. Yesterday I was so touched by one of my little girls prayer. In her prayer she didn't asked for anything. She just thanked her Heavenly Father for everything she loves. She thanked him for Santa, ponies, Jesus, church, teachers, mom, dad, and a whole bunch of other things. The cool thing about it was that she really meant it. It reminded me to be more thankful for everything around me because everything is a gift that we are given by a loving Heavenly Father.
- After church Jake and I worked on Christmas gifts. Its a good thing Emma doesn't pay that much attention because I was kinda working on her gift right in front of her. I was making her a little stuff animal dog made out of a pair of gloves. It is actually turning out really cute. I will have to put up pictures once I am done.
- We got Emma laughing a lot Sunday night. I love the times when I can really get her to giggle and laugh a lot. She is funny and usually tries to hold in her laugh. I am hoping that she is going to be ticklish like me. After all I can't be only one in our family that is ticklish :)
- Last night Jake and I watched the Christmas Devotional from our Church. It was so good with so many great messages. I love how the First Presidency of our church talked about not only the importance of giving but also the importance of receiving. They helped remind me again what really matter this time of year. It is not tinsel and presents, it is the love of God. If you have a chance you should go and watch it. It was amazing!
- Sometimes at night Jake and I love to watch the different Mormon Messages. Last night Jake sowed me a video that I just had to share with you. It tells of a story of two little boys and the lesson they learn about giving. It is such a cute little story that teaches me that you never know what a little service might to someone.
This weekend was pretty great and best of all I got to spend it with my family. Hope you all had an amazing weekend too!
Today I am so thankful for all the little things that my husband does for me. Although he is busy with school, he is always willing to help me. He takes such good care of Emma. Changing her diaper, playing with her, helping get her ready for bed. It is so cool to have him so involved in Emma's life. He also surprises me and does things around the house all the time. Today he had dinner all ready for me when I got home from my nanny job. In fact he made me breakfast too... I have a pretty amazing guy :) I could go on all day with all the things that he does for me. I always feel so loved
I love him,
He is my best friend
(We were having fun with the camera)
Oh and side note, my daughter is starting to sit up and crawl a little. Let the fun begin!